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I am wearing a thin duster jacket that I thrifted. I added hidden buttons to the front insides and repurposed it into a wrap dress. My small home business HERE.

I am wearing a thin duster jacket that I thrifted. I added hidden buttons to the front insides and repurposed it into a wrap dress. My small home business HERE.

Health & Wellness

June 30, 2020

Before we begin, here is my TedTalk message: "Before you rush back to normal, think about what normal you are rushing back to."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a medical professional and I suggested you doing your own research on any of the items I mention. — Although, you may be able to call me “Dr.” in a few years. 🎓 I think I'll be okay with people calling me "Dr. Ray" as opposed to using my last name...since people have a hard time with it and it's a whole mouthful anyway. Hell, most people don't even know how to pronounce my first name or even know what my first name is.

I'm finally getting around to answering some questions about a few ways to stay healthy and putting it all in one place for reference. I'm sorry, I know some of you requested a video, but honestly, I really don't like recording all that much and I always lose my train of thought. It's just better for me to write it out. I am also working on a draft for tips on how to buy, sell, and manage stocks, stay tuned for that.

*I hyperlinked each item so you can read more details.

Supplements and Detoxing. (There are many supplements, vitamins, and detox methods you can take, these are the main ones I use.)

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  • Apple Cider Vinegar: Available in gummies or liquid form and capsules. If you get the liquid, make sure it's with the 'Mother'.

    Detox Drink with ACV
    1 part ACV
    1 part lemonade (optional)
    2 parts water

    Lemons slices (optional)

    Grounded Cayenne Pepper (optional)

This drink helps with weights loss.

You've heard of the Freshman 15, yes? Well, the Quarantine 15 is just a real and I fell victim to it. I was so proud of myself in January, I was telling a friend that my number was getting lower and that I was close to my goal weight and now...well, now I shudder at the scale. Whatever number you may think I weigh, I'm willing to bet it's much less than my actual weight right now; even my friend thought I was much less and that was when I was at a "good" number -- add about 20 lbs to the number you're thinking. You may be saying there is nothing wrong with what I may weigh -- I've learned to wear my clothes well and the number I set for my weight is part of the standards I've created for myself....Plus, ya girl ain't no spring chicken, so I need to be very careful with how I take care of my body. I’m not trying to meet my 50’s feeling like I’m struggling in my 70’s.

  • Elderberry: Available in gummies or liquid form and capsules. Helps boost immunity.

  • Melatonin: I only use this when I have trouble sleeping, especially more so now with all that is going on. I get the gummy form and I get the kid's version of the gummies. When I took the adult version, I noticed I'd get bad dreams and then could not fall back to sleep…defeating the purpose. Also in capsules.

  • B12 Vitamins (gummy): I don't take these often, but it does help with energy. Also in capsules.

  • Iron Supplements (gummy): Same with these, I don't take often and they also help with energy. Also in capsules.

  • Herbal Teas: Drinking tea helps with digestion, maintaining weight, and can help with lowering stress and anxiety levels. Chamomile with lavender tea helps clam the nerves. My go-to tea is green tea, I'll just add a dab of honey for sweetness (I use honey for my coffee too.) I also travel with teas and just ask for a hot cup of water.

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  • *Golden Milk (I drink this about once a week because of all its benefits): Improves memory and speeds learning, Reduces free-radical damage and oxidative stress, Relieves arthritis pain and inflammation, Improves blood pressure and reduces LDL cholesterol, Prevents or inhibits colon, breast, and pancreatic cancers

    Main Ingredients:

    • 2 cups light coconut milk (you can also do almond milk or 1 cup coconut and 1 cup almond milk)

    • 1 teaspoon ground turmeric (turmeric does come in supplement capsules)

    • ¼ teaspoon ground cinnamon

    • Pinch of black pepper

    Optional Ingredients:

    • 1 teaspoon raw honey or agave

    • ¼ teaspoon ground ginger

    • Pinch of ground cayenne pepper

If any of you have problems with sore muscles or back/neck pain all of the above can help you get relive over time, but if you need the tension to go away faster, take a look at THIS. I use this item maybe every other week to help sooth tension between my neck and shoulders. I also use this acupuncture mat and pillow that has worked well for me. (No, I don't sleep on it. I just lay on both for about 30 minutes when I need to.)


Eating and Cooking.

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Incorporate as much fruits and vegetables in your meals as you can. I eat a lot of tropical fruits like mango, pineapple, leche, rambutan, kiwi, and a lot of the normal fruits such as apples, oranges, berries, etc. It's also best to cook with fresh herbs and spices. I started a garden in the last few months, below is what I'm currently growing. *The ones that are starred are plants I use most often when cooking.

Habanero Peppers / Jalapeno Peppers / Sweet Peppers / *Thai Chili Peppers / *Cayenne Peppers / *Sweet Basil / *Thai Basil / Sage / Cilantro / Lemongrass / Spearmint / Sweet Mint / Chocolate Mint / Oregano / Lemons / Limes / Tomatoes / Ginger / *Rosemary / *Thyme / Bell Peppers / Blueberries / Clementines / Leche / Aloe Vera

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Beauty Routine. (The beauty business is a multi billion dollar industry! I used to be a strong advocate for Cover Girl, Revlon, and MAC -- although there are still a few beauty items I use and a few of my friend have their own beauty lines that I support, I refuse to spend more that $20 on one product. And I refuse to spend more than 10 minutes preparing my face for an outing.)

Honestly, I don't have a regimen I use daily. I also stopped wearing makeup about 3 years ago. I'll only make attempts at doing up my face for weddings and ceremonies. At best, I'll do a color lip and darken my eyebrows for everyday occurrences.

If I could go back in time and talk to the high school me or even first year college me, I'd tell her, "Pooh Bear, you are going to experience so much in life especially in your 20's which going to allow you to mentally grow faster than your peers. You are also going to meet so many amazing people and see some beautiful places. You will relocate a few times, but don't worry, you seem to always find a way to make new environments YOURS. You will get several degrees, create several small businesses, and be able to live the life you deserve. Enjoy the ride."

 
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I mainly use 3 items on my skin.

  1. Alba Botanica Hawaiian Pineapple Cleanser (Confession: I don't cleanse my face every day. Some days I just rinse with water. My skin has been doing very well since doing away with foundation and powders and resorting to natural oils. I still get blemishes here and there, but my face is a lot fresher, brighter and healthier.)

    I switch between the items below for moisturizers. You can use them in the morning or before bed.

  2. Castor Oil

  3. Rosehip Oil

  4. *Aloe Vera Spray - This one is an extra and you can use it on your face or hair. If you have the plant, it's great for your skin to use on blemishes, cuts, and bug bites.

(Satin sheets and pillow covers are also good for skin and hair.)


Teeth.

Remember that I mentioned teeth are important? Well, here are the items I use including an amazing travel friendly pre-pasted toothbrush.

  • Bamboo Toothbrush with Activated Charcoal Bristles

  • Activated Charcoal Toothpaste - If you still want to use your normal toothpaste you can opt for charcoal powder and dip your toothbrush with your toothpaste into the powder.

  • Disposable Travel Toothbrushes - This is my FAVORITE carry item. I always have a few on hand with me where ever I go. I also use the Colgate Wisp brushes and never had any issues, but the other brand individually wraps the brushes which I greatly appreciate.


Hair Care.

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If you've seen me or met me when I had my natural hair color, then you've known me a LONG TIME -- Thank you for being here. Because my hair is heavily processed, I have to make sure to keep it moisturized.

At least once a month I do an oil mask on my hair. I use the following oils (separately):

  • Tea Tree Oil

  • Macadamia Oil

  • Almond Oil

  • Coconut Oil

  • And here is an oil blend that is great for hair and skin. (Many oils can be used on both hair and skin. -- You really can't go wrong with natural products.)

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Soak your hair in one of the oils and leave it for at least 30 minutes (sometimes I leave it in for a few hours) then rinse out with your choice of shampoo, no need for conditioner unless you want to. And I try not to use any styling products in my hair aside from leave-in conditioner.


Body.

I began using pure shea butter last year and swear by it. I add a bit of coconut oil to make the shea butter easier to apply and the combination of the two keeps my skin looking hydrated and really healthy. I usually get compliments on how soft my skin is, not in a creepy way, it was mainly while people shake my hand they'll comment, but this was even before I started using shea butter -- skin moisture has always been a top priority for me.

….Why, thank you Joseph.

….Why, thank you Joseph.

Previously, I used other brands such as Jergens and Vaseline. I've not had any issues with these brands, I just began preferring more natural products on my skin. 

For bar soaps, I love African Black Soaps and Tumeric Soaps.  These are great for maintaining healthy skin and helps with removing dark spot by evening your skin tone.


Comfort Food Suggestion: Oxtails (I used a dutch oven to make this)

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  1. Overnight marinade: Jamaican Jerk Seasoning / All Seasoned Salt / Black Pepper / Cayenne Pepper / Soy Sauce / Brown Sugar / Worcestershire Sauce

  2. I braised the meat before putting into the pot.

  3. In the pot: Garlic Cloves / Carrots / Yellow Onion / Scallions / Lima Beans / Scotch Bonnet or Habaneros / Beef Broth / Ketchup / Bay Leaves / Thyme

  4. Cook Time 4 hours at 275° (If you use a pressure cooker you can make this is about an hour)


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Don't fret Sir, for the sake of everyone's safety, I'm not letting anyone date me.  Besides, a Lady shouldn't entertain every man who thinks she's pretty...and the right man will value her for that.

Don't fret Sir, for the sake of everyone's safety, I'm not letting anyone date me. Besides, a Lady shouldn't entertain every man who thinks she's pretty...and the right man will value her for that.

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I'm allowed to be high maintenance because I'm the one who's maintaining it.

I'm allowed to be high maintenance because I'm the one who's maintaining it.

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    • May 15, 2022 One night stand May 15, 2022
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    • May 8, 2022 Two Sides to a Coin May 8, 2022
    • May 1, 2022 Marriage May 1, 2022
  • April 2022
    • Apr 22, 2022 Hey Raya Apr 22, 2022
    • Apr 18, 2022 Mr. Perfect Apr 18, 2022
    • Apr 14, 2022 Gentle Reader Apr 14, 2022
    • Apr 8, 2022 Appearing Acts Apr 8, 2022
    • Apr 3, 2022 Sure, Tell Me More Apr 3, 2022
  • March 2022
    • Mar 20, 2022 Be Good Mar 20, 2022
    • Mar 13, 2022 Is He In A Relationship? Mar 13, 2022
    • Mar 4, 2022 Don't Give Everyone Access: PT 2 Mar 4, 2022
  • February 2022
    • Feb 23, 2022 The Men We Choose Feb 23, 2022
    • Feb 16, 2022 Self-Care, Peace & The V Care Feb 16, 2022
    • Feb 14, 2022 Mind of a Boy Feb 14, 2022
    • Feb 13, 2022 Soul Mates, Real or BS? Feb 13, 2022
    • Feb 10, 2022 Then What Good Is He? Feb 10, 2022
    • Feb 3, 2022 Another One Feb 3, 2022
    • Feb 1, 2022 Men Are Demons Feb 1, 2022
  • January 2022
    • Jan 30, 2022 Man, A Woman's Best Friend Jan 30, 2022
    • Jan 24, 2022 The Gatsby Man Jan 24, 2022
    • Jan 14, 2022 Worth The Fight Jan 14, 2022
    • Jan 14, 2022 Tech Gadgets For The Busy Woman Jan 14, 2022
    • Jan 11, 2022 Men In Style Jan 11, 2022
    • Jan 6, 2022 Make Up Sex Jan 6, 2022
    • Jan 1, 2022 Comment Control Jan 1, 2022
  • December 2021
    • Dec 28, 2021 Recovery 2021 Dec 28, 2021
    • Dec 26, 2021 Successful Kids Dec 26, 2021
    • Dec 22, 2021 Disciplined Men Dec 22, 2021
    • Dec 18, 2021 I Like When He...(NSFW) Dec 18, 2021
    • Dec 15, 2021 HER Dec 15, 2021
    • Dec 10, 2021 The Submissive (NSFW) Dec 10, 2021
    • Dec 5, 2021 Intimacy (NSFW) Dec 5, 2021
  • November 2021
    • Nov 18, 2021 Set The Tone Nov 18, 2021
  • October 2021
    • Oct 14, 2021 Calming Yourself Oct 14, 2021
  • September 2021
    • Sep 26, 2021 Accepting the People Sep 26, 2021
    • Sep 16, 2021 That's Just Love Sep 16, 2021
  • August 2021
    • Aug 31, 2021 Women and The Sum of All Fears Aug 31, 2021
    • Aug 8, 2021 Rejuvenate Aug 8, 2021
  • July 2021
    • Jul 24, 2021 A Woman’s Insecurity Jul 24, 2021
    • Jul 11, 2021 The Perfect Man Jul 11, 2021
  • May 2021
    • May 20, 2021 The Older Man May 20, 2021
    • May 1, 2021 Gaslighting May 1, 2021
  • April 2021
    • Apr 12, 2021 Loyalty Apr 12, 2021
  • March 2021
    • Mar 30, 2021 Equal or Special Mar 30, 2021
    • Mar 29, 2021 You're Just Stubborn Mar 29, 2021
  • January 2021
    • Jan 23, 2021 The Wall Jan 23, 2021
    • Jan 17, 2021 You Can't Let Life Happen To You Jan 17, 2021
  • November 2020
    • Nov 24, 2020 Selfish Acts Nov 24, 2020
    • Nov 15, 2020 What Could a 4-6 Week Lockdown Mean? Nov 15, 2020
    • Nov 11, 2020 Receipts Nov 11, 2020
    • Nov 6, 2020 Not Being Like Your Parents When Parenting Nov 6, 2020
  • October 2020
    • Oct 26, 2020 Depression Oct 26, 2020
    • Oct 15, 2020 How To Trust Oct 15, 2020
    • Oct 1, 2020 You Should Open Up More Oct 1, 2020
  • September 2020
    • Sep 25, 2020 Are Mothers Ruining Their Sons For Future Relationships? Sep 25, 2020
    • Sep 16, 2020 When Is It Actually Considered Dating? Sep 16, 2020
    • Sep 14, 2020 Do You Move Into Your Partner’s Place After Other Ex’s? Sep 14, 2020
    • Sep 13, 2020 Message From Raya L. Sep 13, 2020
    • Sep 13, 2020 Supporting Small Sep 13, 2020
    • Sep 11, 2020 What to do between Birmingham & Tuscaloosa Sep 11, 2020
    • Sep 3, 2020 Confidence Looks Good On You Sep 3, 2020
  • August 2020
    • Aug 26, 2020 The Prenup Aug 26, 2020
    • Aug 19, 2020 Degrees & Certifications Aug 19, 2020
    • Aug 16, 2020 Being Dominant vs. Being Abusive Aug 16, 2020
    • Aug 11, 2020 I Ghosted My Skeleton...Twice Aug 11, 2020
    • Aug 7, 2020 Extra Income Aug 7, 2020
  • July 2020
    • Jul 28, 2020 Don't Give Everyone Access Jul 28, 2020
    • Jul 24, 2020 Stock Market For Beginners (E-BOOK) Jul 24, 2020
    • Jul 21, 2020 The Real Preference Jul 21, 2020
    • Jul 13, 2020 Travel: Pandemic Edition Jul 13, 2020
  • June 2020
    • Jun 30, 2020 Health & Wellness Jun 30, 2020
    • Jun 10, 2020 Whether You Chose to Address It or Not, It Still Exists Jun 10, 2020
    • Jun 1, 2020 A Journey in Tuscaloosa Jun 1, 2020
  • May 2020
    • May 22, 2020 The (UN)Birthday Celebrations May 22, 2020
    • May 15, 2020 Welcome Back…Kinda May 15, 2020
  • April 2020
    • Apr 18, 2020 What Has Staying at Home Taught you? Apr 18, 2020
    • Apr 9, 2020 Mental Health During a Pandemic Apr 9, 2020
  • March 2020
    • Mar 24, 2020 Social Distancing Mar 24, 2020
    • Mar 14, 2020 Women Mar 14, 2020
    • Mar 2, 2020 This is Not a Dating Place Mar 2, 2020
  • February 2020
    • Feb 20, 2020 Getting a Divorce is NOT the Same as Being Divorced Feb 20, 2020
    • Feb 14, 2020 "Power Couples" Feb 14, 2020
    • Feb 11, 2020 She's Too Young For You, Bro. Feb 11, 2020
  • December 2019
    • Dec 22, 2019 Adieu 2019 Dec 22, 2019
    • Dec 3, 2019 Sharing Finances Dec 3, 2019
  • November 2019
    • Nov 7, 2019 Working as a Single Parent to Make it all WORK... Nov 7, 2019
    • Nov 5, 2019 Letting go of Bad Investments Nov 5, 2019
  • October 2019
    • Oct 13, 2019 Everyone Loves the Hero, but No One Forgets the Villain Oct 13, 2019
  • August 2019
    • Aug 30, 2019 Make It Work Anywhere Aug 30, 2019
    • Aug 7, 2019 Business Woman to Business Wife Aug 7, 2019
  • July 2019
    • Jul 30, 2019 Stand By Me Jul 30, 2019
    • Jul 20, 2019 What Dreams May Come Jul 20, 2019
  • June 2019
    • Jun 12, 2019 The Busy Woman Jun 12, 2019
    • Jun 4, 2019 The Boys Club Jun 4, 2019
  • May 2019
    • May 28, 2019 A BODY IN MOTION May 28, 2019
  • March 2019
    • Mar 29, 2019 WHY DO WE KEEP MISCIMMUNICATING IN THE WORKPLACE? Mar 29, 2019
    • Mar 25, 2019 "Office Housework" is keeping women in their place? Mar 25, 2019
    • Mar 19, 2019 Let Him Lead Mar 19, 2019
  • November 2018
    • Nov 9, 2018 Are You Running From Her? Nov 9, 2018
  • October 2018
    • Oct 19, 2018 Not Equal Oct 19, 2018
    • Oct 18, 2018 Dear Men...and Women Oct 18, 2018
    • Oct 6, 2018 It's Complicated Oct 6, 2018
    • Oct 5, 2018 Great Expectations Oct 5, 2018
    • Oct 1, 2018 Let's Not Waste Our Time Oct 1, 2018
  • September 2018
    • Sep 15, 2018 I Love You But... Sep 15, 2018
    • Sep 10, 2018 Gold Digging Clarified Sep 10, 2018
    • Sep 1, 2018 Times Up #MeToo Sep 1, 2018
  • August 2018
    • Aug 30, 2018 Grooming Aug 30, 2018
  • January 2018
    • Jan 22, 2018 Waiting for Who? Jan 22, 2018
    • Jan 17, 2018 The Newer You Jan 17, 2018
    • Jan 10, 2018 Can you Survive It? Jan 10, 2018
    • Jan 1, 2018 Men Set The Tone Jan 1, 2018
  • December 2017
    • Dec 23, 2017 Better Decisions Dec 23, 2017
    • Dec 8, 2017 90% of Women, Is this True? Dec 8, 2017
    • Dec 2, 2017 Forgiveness & Apologies Dec 2, 2017
  • October 2017
    • Oct 18, 2017 A Two Household Marriage Oct 18, 2017
  • September 2017
    • Sep 12, 2017 You Don't Go Together Sep 12, 2017
  • July 2017
    • Jul 5, 2017 Do Men Settle? Jul 5, 2017
  • June 2017
    • Jun 21, 2017 She Did WHAT?! Jun 21, 2017
  • May 2017
    • May 24, 2017 Have a Strong Presence May 24, 2017
    • May 17, 2017 Preparing for You May 17, 2017
    • May 6, 2017 High Expectations May 6, 2017
  • February 2017
    • Feb 20, 2017 SOUTHERN HOSPITALITY #BAMA Feb 20, 2017
    • Feb 10, 2017 Expectations of a Woman Feb 10, 2017
  • January 2017
    • Jan 30, 2017 Expectations of a Man Jan 30, 2017
  • November 2016
    • Nov 20, 2016 The Men We Entertain Nov 20, 2016
    • Nov 5, 2016 Is a Married Man Worth The Effort? Nov 5, 2016
  • October 2016
    • Oct 8, 2016 Decisions Oct 8, 2016
  • September 2016
    • Sep 14, 2016 Must Read For Women Sep 14, 2016
  • August 2016
    • Aug 8, 2016 Clinging Aug 8, 2016
  • June 2016
    • Jun 25, 2016 The Proposal Jun 25, 2016
  • April 2016
    • Apr 10, 2016 What They Want Apr 10, 2016
  • March 2016
    • Mar 15, 2016 Devaluing Your Partner Mar 15, 2016
    • Mar 11, 2016 See Me Less Mar 11, 2016
  • February 2016
    • Feb 29, 2016 Busy Feb 29, 2016
  • December 2015
    • Dec 23, 2015 The Mystery Dec 23, 2015
  • November 2015
    • Nov 9, 2015 In Training Nov 9, 2015
  • July 2015
    • Jul 24, 2015 Partnership Jul 24, 2015
    • Jul 15, 2015 Go On Jul 15, 2015
  • June 2015
    • Jun 28, 2015 Different Languages Jun 28, 2015
    • Jun 23, 2015 The Placement of a Kiss Jun 23, 2015
    • Jun 14, 2015 Letting Go Jun 14, 2015
  • April 2015
    • Apr 30, 2015 The Stranger: A Gentleman's Style Apr 30, 2015
    • Apr 11, 2015 Chemistry Apr 11, 2015
    • Apr 2, 2015 Chivalry Apr 2, 2015
  • March 2015
    • Mar 26, 2015 A Queen Doesn't Play The Joker Mar 26, 2015
    • Mar 24, 2015 Good Men Mar 24, 2015
    • Mar 9, 2015 Testing Him Mar 9, 2015
  • July 2013
    • Jul 10, 2013 Introvert Jul 10, 2013

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