Fellas, we expect a lot form you at times, don’t we? You know, we want you to be respectful, honest, dependable, and not hurt us. That’s a lot for some of you, no? I’ve come across all types of different men. Here’s what I’ve learned. The men have good character and values are genuinely gentle towards women in how they treat them and speak to them, even when they are upset with them. These men also know that there’s all types of women too and that all women do not deserve their time and attention. That’s not to say those women are bad people, it more in regards to a man knowing the types of women who compliment their character and ways of life. We talk about the whole age gap thing a few times here and that is one of the factors to consider if you are a man of honor, value and distinction. I heard there’s an equation distinguished men use when calculating the acceptable dating age of women. The equation is 1/2 your age plus 7. So fellas, take how old you are now and, divide that by 2, and then add 7 to that number. The number you end up with the the youngest age you should consider appropriate when dating a woman. Of course this is up for debate, especially for those of you who say, “Age ain’t nothing but a number.” - Again, OK R.Kelly, go ahead and be out here looking crazy chasing after these young girls and getting caught up in those antics. I know some men who made their lives more difficult because they decided to go inappropriately younger with the women they entertain, but hey, do what you want.
The equation is also subjective if the woman is already into her 30s and has reached certain milestones. That’s what my second audio clip is about. That clip is from a previous topic after receiving some feedback from you guys. But let’s move on for that and keep going with how there’s a difference between men and gentlemen.
The third audio clip was also from a previous topic about how certain men know how to be private and discreet. Remember, I used the words discretion and propriety. Men of class and distinction practice these qualities in their everyday activities. This helps them avoid any flack or negative feedback they may get from other people. I admire my guy friends who are discreet in the way they move. They are not secretive because they do deny or lie about anything they may be doing, but they just share simple information without going into the details. For instance, if I ask one of my friends if they are dating a particular person, they will admit to it, but they won’t go into the detail of that relationship no matter if it’s serious or casual. And with my guys friends, those relationships are all casual. But this also allows them to be gentle to the women around them, because they are not sharing too many details about other relationships they may be involved in, they are not pigeonholed to behaving rudely, disrespectfully, or distantly towards other women in their company. Men who are in this category know exactly what I mean.
Now going back to the types of women who compliment a man’s character and way of living. There’s a lot of men who do not know how to distinguish the difference. With my guy friends, I think I’ve said this to them in so many words, maybe not exactly like this, but I’ll make sure they know this is what I think of them. My guy friends are one of a kind. They may welcome everyone to sit with them, but they are also aware that not everyone fits with them. Does that make sense? I am the same way. I meet people all the time and I am friendly and welcoming, but I am also aware that not everyone is going to fit into my mode. Like to my guy friends that have their girlfriends, those girls can sit with us, but that doesn’t mean they fit with us and many times they sense that too. My friends and I, we are top tier, we’re all on our shit, we make moves that you don’t forget about. And again, we’ll allow you to come hangout with us, but that doesn’t mean we believe you match our synergy. And I’d say most of my guy friends make sure their female companions are respectful of me otherwise, they keep them away from me. And I’d do the same for them if I had a male companion that has any issues with my guy friends.
The term gentlemen doesn’t emulate all men. A true gentleman has a certain finesse about him and believe me, I’ve had men approach me with no finesse and they keep trying and trying with no luck. Like it’s great you are persistent, good for you, but when you have no mack and no game, it’s just embarrassing for all of us. A gentleman knows how to see a woman, observe her moves, and approach her in a way that captures her attention, even if he’s not approaching her with a romantic interest. And even though my guy friends know me and have spent time with me, they still speak with me with gentleness, and yeah, they flirt with me and get fresh, but they never cross the line. Their finesse with me is more about seeing me as the female friend who they can relax with, and who can roll with them without any issues or judgement. They are my GENTLEmen.
So ladies, depending on how you are, what you are about, and how you carry yourself, you’ll attract men who will naturally be gentle with you and are protective of you. I don’t think that I have any man in my life who I call a friend who won’t want to help me in some way if I asked for it. So yeah, another part of men being gentleman is a woman being the type of woman she is.
Be safe everyone.
