*This old topic is getting a lot of traction lately (2020), so I’ve updated the post: “What to do between Birmingham & Tuscaloosa”
I first want to say this because it made my week. I was walking home from the bar, yes, I live within walking distance from many restaurants and bars. So, I was walking home, waiting to cross the street and then I hear someone yell to me from their car. It was two women and the one said to me, “I say this in a non weird way, but you're body is amazing!” And I wasn’t even wearing anything tight, I actually had sweatpants on and a fitted top, so I guess my outfit highlighted my shape and the car was behind me so all they really saw was my backside. I suppose the daily cardio and waist training is working good for me 🥰. A few days before this a man said my body looks nice, but it’s different when a man says it because, Sir you just want to see me naked 😐. But I will give myself credit, I have been drinking my water and managing my diet, so I’m proud to know other people see my progress too.
I can be very critical of myself, aren't we all our own biggest critics? I have learned not to be so hard on myself and to keep a positive mind even if other people aren't on the same energy. As much as I may show my love and support for people I have to accept that I may not get the same love and support back, but trust me, when I do get that same energy back, I’ll never take it for granted.
This month has been such a full month for me. May has been abundant and what I experienced this month just confirms that my glass isn't half empty, it's not half full, baby that cup is filled to the top! And I'm going to keep it filled. Some of you have contributed to filling my cup. From my last topic a lot of you gave me some great words of wisdom.
One of you ladies gave me some really bold advice. You want to know what she sent me? Of course you do! She said,
“Hey girl! Welcome to the 40 club! You're already killing it. It seems like you will never have a problem getting a man, but if you not trying to be married or live together, then girl, you can do what you want with whoever you want. And you're friends who told you not let your morals get in the way, I support that. I had relationships with men with girlfriends, fiances, and wives, and I still had fun and I still had my freedom. Girl live ya life, make ya money, and find the men that call you beautiful and don’t have time to control you. Happy birthday and congratulations on the doctorates!”
Baby, this reader said a word, and why do I feel like she read me my rights? 😂 Her message stood out. I appreciate it, thank you!
And it never fails, every time my birthday comes around someone tells me about the qualities of my zodiac sign. I’m a Taurus and I’ve been told that my sign represents love, beauty, luxury, and sensuality. Taurus people are said to be dependable, patient, and determined, with a strong appreciation for prettiness, comfort, and material possessions (if you’ve seen my house, then you know this is very accurate). The biggest hallmark is that Taurus people are very stubborn. The sign also claims I am grounded, I like stability, I'm very loyal, sensual, and generous. And to be honest, this is all very accurate. Zodiac signs stem back to Greek and Roman mythology and I’m very big on those studies, but I just never got too deep into astrology. But my sign does describe me very well. So fellas, here's a blueprint for me, take notes where you can. 😉
Another thing I noticed and a few of you ladies mentioned this too. I’d say in my late 30s I noticed my hormones either being really off balance and causing unexpected mood swings or sometimes they make me feel, ummmm how do I say this, they can make me feel really sensual 🫠. I’ve not once acted on those feelings when they occured, but when it happens, I just try to think of something else, because remember, I’ve not been fooling with anyone for a long time and I’m not about to start something salacious just because my body is going through whatever she’s going through, my Hello Kitty is trying to be aggressive, and I’m like, girl stfu and stay hidden😆. Oh yeah, I’m going to love my 40s.
I think it can be revitalizing when you stop letting things or people upset you or you just let go of bad memories and focus on making good one. That's not to say you still won’t get hurt or disappointed, but we should learn to not let those experiences hinder our grace and love. When a negative thought pops in your mind, challenge it with a positive one. Before you speak, think of how your words can make someone feel seen. When you hug people, hug them with your soul, and when you look at people, look at them with admiration. Trust me, if you start to practice these simple things everyday, you're spirit is going to feel fulfilled.
Be safe everyone.
