“Choice Matters Over Need”
If you ever feel like you’re out of options, take a moment to think things over. Life has so many possibilities; sometimes, a small change in how you see things can reveal new paths. You might feel stuck, wondering why certain choices leave you feeling empty, but beyond what’s familiar lies a world of opportunities just waiting for you.
Being single can actually be a great time for personal growth. It’s a chance to shape your own life and focus on what you love. This time isn’t just a break; it’s an opportunity to chase your passions, understand yourself better, and enjoy some quiet time without distractions. Your friends might tell you that you’ll find companionship eventually, but for now, embrace the freedom to explore your own interests and think about what you truly want. I’ve been single about 12-14 years now. Yes, I’ve had lovers in that time, but by definition I am still single even though I chose not to date more than one person at a time. Intimate relationship are important to me and I like for my lover to know that although my life have various options, I am only dedicated to one man at a time.
On the other hand, being in a relationship or married can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming, with shared responsibilities and various challenges. Still, it can also lead to deep connections and enjoyable moments as you navigate life together. Relationships like this is a shared adventure, and remember that finding happiness and being happy is a choice. You can have happiness even when things get chaotic. It’s sometimes in the simplest interactions you share with your partner like just spending quality time, discussing plans, or just wishing them a good day can make a difference in your mood and how your relationship progresses.
Whenever you feel unsure and think your options are limited, remember that it’s often just how you perceive things. The world is full of potential, just waiting for you to push past your comfort zone. Keep your heart open, as new ways to find fulfillment can be hidden by doubt, but they’re still there if you’re willing to take a leap into the unknown with courage and curiosity. It’s natural to be curious about people and the potential connections you can develop with someone, it’s also very valid if you change your mind about those connections. Listen, I was married for 10 years, my longest legitimate relationship ever, and yes it was not easy to make the choice to leave, but my heart and what I wanted changed. It took time to process my decision and there were moments where I asked myself if I did the right thing. Ultimately, I decided to stand by my choice and Yes, it was the best option for me and my family.
The concept of "choice over need" highlights an important aspect of personal growth and self-awareness. Often, we find ourselves caught in the cycle of fulfilling our immediate needs such as having social acceptance in certain circles or gratifying our sexual desires, without considering all the choices or options we have available to us. Personal growth begins when we recognize that we have the power to make conscious choices that align more closely with our values and who we are or who we are trying to be, rather than simply reacting to our immediate needs.
Self-awareness plays a critical role in this process. By understanding our motivations and the reasons behind our choices, we can break free from patterns of behavior that do not serve us, like choosing relationships that influence us to stray away from good character or alienate us from people who really care for our overall well-being. Reflect on that. This reflection often involves asking ourselves challenging questions about what we value most, people who accept us as we are or people who want us to change parts of our personality or lives for them? Are we making choices that foster our growth, or are we simply reacting to external pressures?
Ultimately, the choice over need empowers us to take control of our lives. It encourages a mindset shift from not evaluating all our options to taking a proactive approach to make choices that fosters long-term fulfillment and satisfaction. Embracing this philosophy can lead to deeper self-awareness and a more authentic way of living, where each decision aligns with our true self, rather than just responding to the demands of the moment. Take some time to think and assess your recent or current choices, are they serving you into being a better person, or are they putting strain on you because you felt you had to make a just decision due to pressure?
Be safe everyone.
