“Have Mercy On Those Who Want Better”
In the last topic one of you sent a message that got me thinking and encouraged this topic. So you knocked my other topic back a week.
One of you said that if someone isn't seeing your growth, then that person isn't growing because they are not willing to accept another version of you. Because then, if they accepting a new version of you then they are also accepting that maybe there are parts of themselves that haven't grown and still need to grow. This topic might be sensitive to some of you, be these topics are always here to make you comfortable. It's to encourage you to be introspective.
I have friends I grew up with, and some of them have not fully accepted the more stable, more responsible, and more conscientious me. They still want me to be this carefree type of person with no structure of tangible goals. Some of my friends are still doing the same things we did when we were in high school and our early 20s, like doing things that weren't really getting us anywhere even though in our minds we thought we were getting ahead but in really we were just going in circles and I'm not that person anymore.
And it's hard to spend time with those friends because the trajectory of my life wasn't their same trajectory. Speaking to them sometimes feels like speaking to someone who is a prisoner in their own mind. Prisoners are limited to resources and activities, so they only know what's available to them, and they are not utilizing what resources they do have to help themselves out of that mindset.
And it does bother me a bit because I can't have certain conversations with them because they are settled in their comfort zone and I won't want to take them out of that. I never make any of my friends feel bad about our lives now being different I just have accepted the fact that I can better understand them than they can understand me because I used to have their same mentality. But it is disheartening that some of them have not accepted my transformation since we were younger and still want me to be the old version me. It's hard navigating those friendships.
Let me give you another example, say if you were an addict or you knew someone with a problem and they got themselves help and learned how to overcome it a move past that version of them and they continue to be committed to a better life, but instead of embracing the new version of them, you are still holding on to their troubled version. Why are you still holding on to that version of someone? What good is it doing you?
We don't have to use addiction as the only example. It could be someone you had a falling out with, and they have now changed for the better. Are you still going to hold on to the issues, or have you yourself changed as well and embracing more positive opportunities in your relationship with people?
There are many scenarios of someone becoming a better version of themselves. And if you aren't accepting that better version of someone, maybe you still are holding on to that old version because you want to use their past issues as a reason for you not to make changes. Did I strike a cord with anyone? And maybe you're in a bad cycle of repeating your own flaws.
Let me tell you why I try to be so positive about everything... because baby I'm blessed. And because I am abundantly blessed, I'm not going to take my blessings in vain. I am going to smile. I am going to laugh. I am going to look at every glass as half full. And if anyone doesn't enjoy my light, then they are struggling to put aside their shade for me. Or they are wearing someone else's shade against me. And what good does that do you? Why are you going to allow that burden to be imposed on to you? What type of person does that make you? And is that the type of person you want to be or is that how you want to be remembered? Like I said early, this topic isn’t for you to be comfortable. It’s here to challenge your way of doing and being.
Be safe everyone.
