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UPDATE: 01/05/2022 - You guys are relentless šŸ˜†. Letā€™s agree to disagree on this. No one is bothering me, I am not stressed. I donā€™t have a secret lover or friend, I donā€™t have late night callers, none of that is going on. No one but me is waking up in my bed and Iā€™m not sleeping in anyone elseā€™s bed. Itā€™s just me, myself, and I. Trust me, my life is not that interesting. Iā€™ve always kept to myself, those who know me, know that I am very lowkey and I think thatā€™s where people make up their own suspicions about my life. And this site has never been about my personal life. I voice my opinion and experiences on certain topics, but the main subject is never Me. So letā€™s put this to rest and move on. As for the person who had an issue with the comments, no I have not discussed anything further with them. We both have personal things we are dealing with right now.

UPDATE: 01/04/2022 - Thank you for all your emails about this issue and thank you for understanding. I do not want to make this a big issue. There are so many other things I need to focus my time and energy on. I have my assumptions who who certain people are and some of the comments that were not public shared too much information I wasnā€™t even aware of, but if these people are not revealing who they are, then Iā€™m not going to bother with it. Iā€™m not around many people and since my personal matter in October, Iā€™ve been very particular with who I share things with. In time, you will be able to post comments again, and trust me, I am not losing any incentives or commissions by deactivating the commentsā€¦my money is good. I rather everyone focus on reading and enjoying the content.

UPDATE: 01/03/2022 - I changed the settings to show comments that have already been made, but you will not be able to make new comments.

Some of you have already noticed the comment issues. 26 emails and counting from readers asking why they cannot comment or read comments. Itā€™s is not an error. I turned off commenting on all the posts and when I do that, all the comments that were made disappear too. This is temporary.

The reason for this is I got a what seemed to be a disgruntled message about some of the comments (all of you probably know which ones Iā€™m referring to and I appreciate those of you who looked over them.) Although, I cannot control who visits my site and who wants to add in their input, this one person believed I was not being vigilant enough in controlling what is said by readers. Even though this site is not my top to-do everyday, especially now with what I am going through privately, there is an automatic filter that flags comments containing certain words or foul language; those comments never get seen by the public, but I can still see them, and Yeah, I wouldnā€™t want anyone to read them either. Especially the person who is already a little upset. Anyone can put an ambiguous title when they comment, Iā€™ll never truly know if itā€™s a real name or not, so I canā€™t tell this person, ā€œHey, you should go talk to _______ about these comments.ā€ No matter, this person is someone who Iā€™ve known for a period of time and I didnā€™t want to be stubborn and say, ā€œWell, you always told not to worry about what other people say and now you want me to worry about it and worry about what youā€™re saying and do something about it.ā€ ā€” I didnā€™t not respond with that. But I did tell this person that I couldnā€™t understand why theyā€™ve been mute during a time I needed people around me to help fill in the blank spaces thatā€™s missing from my memories and also considering how supportive Iā€™ve always been to my friends. This person was the last person I wouldā€™ve expected not to reach out to me.

When I responded to some of your emails and told why I disabled commenting, most of you said I should not let someone else control what I do on my site and to out this person. Let me clear this up. Itā€™s not giving away control, itā€™s giving a level of respect to someone who has taken offense to something that was posted my site. And what good would it do if I outed this person? Even if I wrote a ā€œtell-allā€ book, everyone would be given a different name and there is at least one bombshell that would turn a few things upside-down. Although, what I talk about is never intended to offend anyone, and I cannot control what others say, we should still try to hear others out no matter their frustration or off putting delivery. ā€” Because I would want that same grace given towards me.

Iā€™m sorry that some of your comments disappeared in the process and most of you do engaged in the content and want to discuss it more, but like I said, this is temporary. This is definitely not how I wanted to start the new year, but I also didnā€™t want to start it off with ill vibes either. Honestly, I donā€™t even think this person would be satisfied with whatever I do; the interaction just seemed cold, aggressive and dismissive. You know how you can tell when people really want to be happy and people who want to be mad but try to mask it? Being heartless to someone doesnā€™t make you a better person, no matter what you have going on in your own life. In any case, until I can get a better handle on how to regulate comments, I made the decision that I felt was best.

Be good to people, even if there is no reason to be.


*A friend sent me this and told me that all types of relationships are hard.

*There is no man, I just agree with this.